A famous psychologist, Mikhail Labkovsky, over a time-span of 30 years has coined six simple rules which will help you fight neurosis.
Here are these rules.
#1 DO WHAT YOU WANT TO DO
It is the first rule which everyone should apply in their lives. You should do what you want to do and, not what you have to do. However, this does not apply to only some situations but, it works in every scenario, be it your everyday routine or on some special occasions. Moreover, to have a child with the healthy psyche, ensure that you make your child ask these questions like,” what you want to do?”, “what you are wearing today?” etc. so that they have a habit of doing what they want to do!
#2 DON’T DO WHAT YOU DON’T WANT TO!
According to Labkovsky, “Concessions and compromises are a direct path to a cardiologist” and, doing things which you don’t want to do, triggers the scenario for the worse. Try not doing the activities which you don’t want to do. Else, you’ll end up making yourself sad and unhappy.
#3 DON’T KEEP SILENT IF YOU DON’T LIKE SOMETHING
Rather than bottling up your feelings about the things you dislike about somebody, get up and say to them directly, instead. There should be enough space in every relationship so that you can pour out your feelings about the things you either like or dislike. Say,” No, I don’t like this. Don’t do it this way.” But, if you lack this space in any relationship, then it’s better to avoid such links.
#4 DON’T ANSWER IF YOU ARE NOT GETTING AN ANSWER
Instead of answering manipulative sentences of neurotics like what’s wrong? Why are you complaining? It’s better not to offer an answer to these questions. Do not give any reaction and, claim that you’re not interested in such type of conversations.
#5 ANSWER ONLY QUESTIONS
Before providing an unwanted and a prolonged explanation of a simple question, think about the impression it will form on the person in front. But, if you give the person with a to-the-point answer, it’ll make you look confident. Do not give excuses in place of responses.
#6 SPEAK ABOUT YOURSELF WHILE ARGUING
It is the primary principle of the methods. You should be able to speak about you and your feelings. You don’t have to argue with your partner regarding the things which are out of topic but, talk about yourself.
To witness positive changes, try these methods for six months.